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Sweet Relief Personal Quiz

Take this quiz about the behavior of the narcissist in your relationship. It addresses the way he is likely to behave in an established relationship, rather than in one that is new and just developing. Your answers will help you identify whether you are involved with a narcissist.

Does this person charm newcomers?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person engage in new relationships quickly and easily?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person light up when praised?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person seem most vibrant when in performance mode?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person have a tendency to bring conversations back around to his latest activities, interests, opinions, or achievements?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person want what he wants regardless of the consequences?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person get angry when you express your own anger or dissatisfaction, thereby diverting attention away from your feelings and toward his own?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person forget or dismiss things you've shared that are important to you or about you?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person do what suits him regardless of agreements you've made, or social/workplace norms?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person fail to apologize for upsetting behaviors, or when he does apologize, seem insincere?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person neglect to maintain a network of friends outside of work or one important hobby?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person have trouble imagining what it's like to be in someone else's shoes?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person withdraw communication or physically isolate when criticized, or when he feels criticized?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person seek frequent assurances of your physical whereabouts when discontent?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find that this person makes plans without including you in the process?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you realize that you are the one to start the conversation if there are issues between you that need to be addressed?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find that you avoid conflicts with this person because when you stand up for yourself it leads to aggravation?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you realize that your viewpoint gets ignored or dismissed?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you notice that you are skeptical about relying on agreements that he makes?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find that it is easier to relinquish the spotlight to this person rather than try to share it?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you notice that you are really good at taking care of things, picking up the slack?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you put up with relationship problems because you have hope?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find yourself somewhat confused about what you want for yourself?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you notice you are skilled at getting along with people generally considered difficult by others?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you feel ineffective in this relationship?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you feel that your conversations about logistics are often thwarted?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you get frustrated that this person doesn't take care of things you expect him to do?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

How many legs on a typical dog? (e.g: 5)

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